My Gay-tastic Paradox and The 4 Month Rule.

I found some old journals the other day that I had written long before I knew what blogging is. Both of them were laden to the brim with relationship babble. After reading some of the entries I realized the 4 Month Rule was staring me in the face. The "4 Month Rule" came from my friend Wayno. Wayno was a gay man who liked to call me "Grace." As in "Will & Grace." As in - I have a bad habit of dating "Metro" men who are really gay but denying it and/or hiding the fact. I'm pretty sure I know why I am attracted to these types of men. I call it my Gay-tastic Paradox. Although I do not like to be in control of things, I am not trusting enough to give up control in a relationship. Metrosexuals do attempt to lay down the law, but are rarely able to stand their ground. So I end up being disappointed by the passiveness that attracted me to them in the first place. Thus, the Gay-tastic Paradox. Wayno once told me he never dated a man for longer than 4 months. When I asked him why he was so triflin' he said "It only takes 4 months for a man to let down his guard and show you his true self..." And that is the 4 Month Rule. So, as I was reading these old journal entries of mine I started to realize that in each relationship a few things that I began to question in the beginning (first 4 months) were ultimately the things that broke us up. I figured out that if I could just learn to trust I could rid my life of the Gay-tastic Paradox. And I am not sure if the 4 Month Rule applies to men who are- heterosexual and no mistake about it. But I have hope.